Becoming a Parent

S1E17

Arguably life’s greatest change and challenge is almost upon me. Our first child is on her way. In this season one finale I’m researching, surveying, and overthinking parenthood with 9 good friends and experienced parents.

Washington Post article on the emotional difficulty of becoming a parent

Research on the transition to parenthood

The New Demography of American Motherhood

Psychology Today: Does having children make us happy?

Washington Post- good reasons why Americans need family-focused social policies

CNN- Parenthood and happiness

Fortune- Mothers, Marriage and Parenthood

NPR clip

Parenthood and Marriage- Today.com

Parenthood and happiness research

 

Great show on the subject:

Another fun show on parenting:

You may want this book just to read the chapter “Get the Epidural”- hilarious

Facebook Fights

S1E16

Facebook can be a breeding zone for conflict. But can’t we all just get along? Hear ideas from Dr. Alloway, renowned professor of psychology and social media researcher, and listen to highlights from Brené Brown and other research.

Dr. Tracy Alloway’s research and links

Brené Brown’s GREAT book quoted in the episode:

Bill Bishop’s book:

UC Berkley and University of Chicago research on reading vs. seeing/hearing

Washington Post article including online persuasion research 

Washington Post on how we agree with our FB friends

Mashable article

What Everyone Else Is Thinking

S1E15

The majority of people don’t have it all figured out. So why do we base decisions off what everyone else thinks and does? Laugh with Jessica Jensen, learn from elderly consultants, and review research on some of humanity’s most irrational behaviors.

References:

Women and working out

Stanford research on priming

Quotes to help you care a little less

Fantastic read from Dr. Dan Ariely!:

Quirky Jenna Marbles pep talk (warning: lots of swearing)

Instasham 2

S1E14

Part two of two thinking about the picture-perfect lives of lifestyle Instagrammers. Hear from influencers Sara Jane Warner and Ashton Barrett. And learn about the effects of following strangers from psychologist and researcher Dr. Leora Trub.

Shawni Pothier blog disclaimer

Brooke White’s Website

Dr Trub’s instagram research

Instasham

S1E13

Lifestyle instagrammers- they look great, we feel awful. In this part one of two, get a behind-the-scenes exposé with anonymous blog photographer, review research, and real talk with author of viral “Lifestyle Porn” article, Mike Thayer.

“Part of My World”
Vocals: Kimberly Lochner
Lyrics: yours truly, Andy
Artwork: Anoosha Syed Illustration

More on this topic:

Mike Thayer’s “Lifestyle Porn” article 

Dr Trub’s instagram research

A professional instagrammer/blogger’s perspective

A hilarious parody instagram account

Instagram and mental health

 Instagram is the worst…

One instagram star receptions her photos exposing the truth

Essena O’Neil video quitting social media

Great NY Times article outlining the problem

 

 

 

Redheads

S1E12

Redheads have it hard. From the constant sunburns to the verbal ones. Hear what it’s like from American redheads: Alex Grow and Eric Innes, Irish ginger Paddy O’Shea, and comedian Shawn Hitchins.

Shawn Hitchin’s book-(also available on Audible April 11th!):

Documentary- Being Ginger:

Sperm bank turns down redheads

Physical attraction experiment

Redheads and pain

CBS article on redheads

BBC article on redheads

Research: “Red Hair in Popular Culture and the Relationship with Anxiety and Depression”

 

Perfect Parties

S1E11

Today’s parties and weddings- fun or frightening? Hear from 7-time bridesmaid- Kristal Milnik, founder of PinterestFail.com- Jenna Anderson, and finally Emily Hardman, author of NY Times article “I planned my wedding in 5 days. You could too.”

Links/Resources:

Emily Hardman’s New York Times article: “I planned my wedding in 5 days. You could too”

Accompanying article detailing the planning

Jenna’s website- PinterestFail.com 

Rise in wedding costs- CNBC

Pinterest Stress covered by Today.com

Brides.com article How Wedding Planning Has Changed Over the Last 10 Years

Funny summary of then vs. now birthday parties

Very funny list of 13 things you don’t need at your kid’s bday party

Nice finance article to curb the Pinterest pressures

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Life Advice

S1 E10

Where one bit of life advice exists, another is there to contradict it. When everyone recommends contradicting ways of life, how do you choose? Ned Sweet and our elderly consultants cast their votes on life’s diverging paths.

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Busyness

Americans have never been busier, nor more proud of it.  Learn why we use busyness as a badge of honor with Georgetown researcher and professor, Dr. Neeru Paharia, and hear from Annie Grow and elderly consultants.

Resources/ more on this topic:

Dr. Paharia’s research covered in HBR

Also Covered in Columbia business school

FAVORITE op-ed on busyness

Great article from The Economist

Tim Ferris knows everything

Business insider telling it like it is

Washington Post weighs in

Health Fitness

France showing us up on joie de vivre

Recommended book: On the Shortness of Life by Seneca

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Romance 2

S1E8

We’re picking back up with Jeff Arch, writer and creator of Sleepless in Seattle, discussing real life romance vs. movie romance. Then several other guests discuss the reality of their love lives.

Jeff Arch, Sally Seibert, Molly Birchall, Toos Ward, Trina Weeks, Molly Malone

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Romance

S1E7

Why can’t love be like the movies? Adoring suitors, perfect love confessions, and kisses in the pouring rain. Is real-life romance a bust, or are we not watching close enough? Hear from Sleepless in Seattle creator and writer, Jeff Arch.

In part one of two, I give my husband a chance to defend himself, lament with my sister, and discover whether or not the writers of romance movies lead the lives we dream of. Tune in next week as the conversation with Jeff continues in Part Two, followed by more conversations with friends, family and the elderly about lifelong, off-screen love.

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Romantic books I recommend:

Books mentioned by Jeff Arch:


Romantic movies I recommend:

Dating Apps

S1 E6

Dating is tricky. But now you can do it from your phone. Does that make meeting the one easier or harder? Listen as friends discuss their opinions and experiences, and research gives insight into the digital complexities of finding love.

Dating apps make people less attractive in real life

Tinder users have lower self-esteem

The rise of dating-app fatigue

Dating app parody song written by me, performed by Kimberly Lochner:

 

 

People Who Deserve More Credit

S1E5

There are people all around us doing great things and not getting the deserved recognition. Today they will. Featuring Jessica Jensen, a yelp reviewer, wikipedia contributor, and Ben Stiller’s stuntman.

Greg Fitzpatrick’s highlight reel:

Also be sure to check out Roger Bamkin’s gender gap-bridging project on Wikipedia 

 

Saying No

Season 1 Episode 4.

Sometimes the most positive thing we can do is just say no. Learn the things Andy and friends have liberated themselves from, and hear wisdom from William Ury’s The Power of a Positive No. 

Featuring; Kevin Seibert, Mike Thayer, Jessica Jensen, Annie & Alex Grow, Levi Ballstaedt.

Check out this book to learn more about how and why to say no:

In case you need some biblical justification to setting boundaries, this will do the trick:

“Saying No” clips referenced in show:

 

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Expectations

Season 1 Episode 3

Want a great dinner conversation? Ask someone if it is better to live with high expectations or low expectations. People get passionate about this one.

In this episode I am overthinking expectations. I get inside the mind of optimist and friend Alex Grow, my husband Levi, gain perspective from my Elderly Consultants, and finally get a powerfully insightful interview with the author of my favorite book on happiness Dr. Rakesh Sarin (yeeee!)

MUST read book by interviewee Dr. Rakesh Sarin. Easily my favorite book on happiness to date.

References and more links on this topic:

Dr. Rakesh Sarin Tedx Talk

Daniel Gilbert study shows low expectations=low rewards

One Forbes vote for high expectations

Psychology Today vote for low expectations

NPR expectations in marriage

Millennials and expectations

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Surprisingly Inspiring

Season 1 Episode 2

Seriously bizarre things can become seriously successful, and what could be more inspiring? In this episode, my friend Ned Sweet and I list some of these unexpected successes. Then I chat with Kevin Eastman, creator of Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.

Items mentioned:*

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FOMO

Season 1 Episode 1

I, Andy, suffer from acute FOMO, aka the Fear Of Missing Out. 

It’s a real thing. In the premiere episode of the Andy Overthinks podcast, this millennial phobia is researched and discussed with friends- Jessica Jensen and Levi Ballstaedt, elderly consultants- Toos Ward (87), Aileen Alfano (95), Miss Ruby (91), and therapist Joey Ulrich.

More resources on FOMO:

Priya Parker Tedx Talk

Time magazine

NY Times article

Funny SF Gate column

Science Daily

Forbes

Recommended Reading:*

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